Uncategorized, Unschooling

Finding Your Tribe and realizing Life Rocks

We love our life! We are so happy to share it with all of you.  Yet we still have never been shy about the challenges we face; our biggest, being our feeling so alone way out here and the lack of support we feel by others in our immediate environment.  We have said for years:  “if only we could just find our tribe . . .”

On the one side:

~Living our life as we do and treading a path so different from most has presented it’s challenges.My favorite of quotes that has fortified us on our path:  “All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.”-Arthur Schopenhauer

~It means: Our life is at times filled with a sense of uncertainty.

~On this journey we have encountered our fair share of those that really just more or less “don’t get it”; some of them even our own family members. When you experience that time and again, you start to wonder if you will ever really “find your tribe”.

~I set up this blog nearly 5 years ago for that sole purpose.  To reach out, find and connect with others like us; those who shared the same ideals.  Longing to find a place where we could go (virtual or physical) wherein we wouldn’t feel like foreigners in a strange land, a place where we felt a sense of belonging.  Regardless of the many online support groups and social networking we have done in all these years, it really isn’t until just recently that we have had a taste for what that truly feels like.  Only recently have we found the balance of being just fine on our own but also relishing in the wonder of what it feels like to be in the company of those in whom we are totally ourselves, with those with whom we feel that calm sense of belonging.

On the other side:

I have to say that, for the most part, the negative experiences have been pretty few and far in between and the longer we are on this path, less.  Or perhaps, it’s just that as we settle into our authentic life, those opinions no longer affect us, or it has just gotten easier to simply listen with compassion for their views and/or concern.

Even in those uncertain times (though they really are so rare for us these days)  our life is so full of adventure and heartfelt joy!  We are so grateful for every experience!  Isn’t that after all what this life is about: living and learning?

AND FINALLY . . .

We have found our tribe!!!

Photo credit: Joe Martin Photography

People who believe what in what we believe. People who think like us. People with common interests, common beliefs and ideals.

A community where we belong, where we just . . .  fit. Where we can show up and be 100% ourselves.

Those with whom we can connect, learn and grow with.

A symbolic place within where confusion and uncertainty dissipates. Where clarity, innovation and inspiration sets in.  Where a sense of sheer relief  is felt. Where you feel safe to let your guard down. Finally! You have found your place, your people!

~OUR TRIBE~

These things and more we all agree we felt this past week attending the Life Rocks Unschooling Conference.  Sure, it counts for a lot that some of our best friends were running the thing (and I was so grateful to be asked to help out) but it was the new friendships formed that really convinced me that we had found our tribe. People with whom we had never shared any time with felt like old friends.  Hearing their stories, viewing their vulnerability bonded us.

There were so many fantastic moments and I wish I could share them all but here are just a few of our favorite highlights, the moments that speak to what it feels like to be with your tribe . . .

Everyone free to be themselves. These kids have no qualms about who they are and what they represent. Barefooted, hair of every color, clothes of every style. All about freedom of expression.  So liberating! Such an inspiration!
My Livy, so in her element, so free to be her punk rock self. Love it!
My Livy, so in her element, so free to be her punk rock self. Love it!
No discrimination amongst the age groups. Patience and compassion for the younger ones. Scenes like this totally touched my heart.
No discrimination amongst the age groups. Patience and compassion for the younger ones. Scenes like this totally touched my heart. (photo credit: Joe Martin Photography
Comradery and Industriousness; the willingness to pitch in to solve a problem for your fellow man.  This pitch tent was thought up and put together on the spot to provide shade for the Sun Vegan Bus; even our physical nourishment was provided with compassion and love.
Comradery and Industriousness; the willingness to pitch in to solve a problem for your fellow man. This pitch tent was thought up and put together on the spot to provide shade for the Sun Vegan Bus; even our physical nourishment was provided with compassion and love.(photo credit: Joe Martin Photography
Exploring your creative side in an effort of finding your own truth is a popular concept with unschoolers. I was so pleased to be able to share this passion with those in attendance.
And I joined in as a participant in some of the other art sessions.  I love how the room was full of children and adults working side by side, all learning and creating together.
And I joined in as a participant in some of the other art sessions. I love how the room was full of children and adults working side by side, all learning and creating together.
Self-sufficiency and living in the present. Why must we wait until we are an adult, with the “proper education” and adequate schooling under our belt, to start to making a living for ourselves? Livy was just one of the many kids who set up to sell their wares at the renegade bazaar.

 

And the one person I owe the most for helping me find my tribe . . . one of my dearest friends and my soul sister, Dayna.  It was upon meeting her (and her sparkling family) a year ago that I first felt that sense of what it is to be with your tribe.
And the one person I owe the most for helping me find my tribe . . . one of my dearest friends and my soul sister, Dayna. It was upon meeting her (and her sparkling family) a year ago that I first felt that sense of what it is to be with your tribe.

 

And the feelings that ensued in the days that passed just after, the sadness and the longing, we all felt . . . how is it we could miss these people,  with whom we spent such little time with, so much?

 

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The teens saying their final bittersweet goodbyes. Nobody in this group is “too cool” for a group goodbye hug!

Those who you feel an instant connection to, those who you feel you can’t help but be totally yourself with, no judgement and totally free where even when there is a difference of opinion it is respected and accepted.  Those with whom you feel a familiarity and kinship . . . this is what finding your tribe feels like.

We cannot wait to be with our tribe again soon.

LOVE and LIGHT!

Amber

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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