Free range living, Growing up, raising teens

We’re Back!

Welcome to our new blogging home.

Not as fancy as the prior one but it will suit it’s purpose.  What that purpose is, is not yet clear but we couldn’t bear to say goodbye completely.  In so many ways, we have remained the same family we’ve always been. In the important stuff, we have never swayed; our philosophy to living our best life with true freedom of expression and centered around love still remains our anchor.  But things are different too.  We are and always will be,  mom and dad, but the kids aren’t nearly kids, anymore.  In this fast, wonderful, magical, ever-evolving world, they are striking out on their own.  And it is wonderful.  It means that their time is more readily spent in seeking out their passions and forging their own individual paths.

Jobs, driver’s licenses, friends, significant others; all part of our lives now.  Everything, we have done (and more importantly not done) has led us to this place.  A place of newfound independence, stumbles, successes, growth and prosperity.

We are (as always) excited to share this new chapter but it seems that what was for so long, “our” chapter (my story to tell from my humble perspective) has now become ours AND theirs.  Their path has always been their own and our role, to unconditionally and lovingly support that path.  So it is as if they’ve always had their own story but for so long I have been the voice to share it.  Now, they are making their own stories and those stories are for them to tell, should they wish, on their own, in their own way. Sure,  it is an adjustment for this blogging, free parenting mama who has been so driven all these years to share, share, share but it is a welcome one.  So, I very well may continue the storytelling tradition but what that will look like, in this space and how that plays out, remains to be seen.  Perhaps, as you have been all these years, you will be with my in finding the way. I hope so.

Stay tuned.

Love and Light,




The sheer magic of “it” all . . .


This chair.  It’s unique. It’s beautiful.  It’s really big.  It speaks to my bohemian, hippie soul!

But not only that . . . it’s magical!

Because rather than just being a chair, it is actually a desire long held, only recently fulfilled.  It is my manifestation.  My energy transformed.  It is all of these things.


Set an intention, hold the thought for a moment, feel the feelings that thought provokes, take a deep breath and then release it. Let it go, out from you, wafting into the environment and upward into the vastness of the universe. It has been created, it has been instilled with heart’s desire and given wings. Away from you it flies, you can see it in your mind’s eye and there you remain watching, left with the assurance that just as it has so many times before, it will indeed come back to you. Fulfilled.

Thought becomes reality.  Intention becomes Manifestation.

But what is “it”?

It is real. It is Magical.

It is anything you want it to be.

It can be whatever you are in need of, whatever you desire. Money, material possessions, a certain outcome, a  way out of a bad situation, a new home, you name it!  If what you truly desire comes from a place of love and is in alignment with what it best for the common good, there really are no limits. That’s what my recent experiences have proven to me.

Spiritual minds support it:

“Thought, feeling and body.  When the three become one, you will say to the mountain “move” and the mountain will move.~the Kabbalah

“The space between your thoughts, is the window to the cosmic mind.” ~Deepak Chopra

What you are living is the evidence of what you are thinking and feeling-every single time. ~Abraham-Hicks


Science confirms it:

Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality.* It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.”~Albert Einstein

“If you wish to understand the universe (to find the secrets of the universe), think of energy, frequency and vibration.”~Nikola Tesla

A fundamental conclusion of the new physics also acknowledges that the observer creates the reality. As observers, we are personally involved with the creation of our own reality. Physicists are being forced to admit that the universe is a “mental” construction. Pioneering physicist Sir James Jeans wrote: “The stream of knowledge is heading toward a non-mechanical reality; the universe begins to look more like a great thought than like a great machine. Mind no longer appears to be an accidental intruder into the realm of matter, we ought rather hail it as the creator and governor of the realm of matter. ~R. C. Henry**

“What shows up in our lives is a direct reflection of our inner thoughts and emotions.”~Pam Grout

And this just sums it up so perfectly:

“Everything is energy. Your thought begins it, your emotion amplifies it and your action increases the momentum”~Avinash Wandre

Call it the Secret, the Law of Attraction, creative visualization, the law of relativity or simply imagination, but here’s what I believe:

“You are powerful.  You are perfect.  Be a seamless flow of good energy, aligned with your consciousness; heart, mind, body and soul.  

The results you manifest will leave you believing in the sheer magic of it all.

And now, with all that being said, I am proud to share with you my latest manifestation of the fine chair pictured above.  It’s a rather short simple story but really I think that’s what makes it most magical of all.  It really can be that easy once you get the hang of it.

It goes something like this:

The last couple of years, I have really been coming into my own, living my life out loud and proud, expressing the inner me with the outer me. Part of that involves moving to our new home and really embracing the opportunity to allow our home environment to express the souls we are.  Anyone who truly knows me and has seen the inner me, will assure you I have always been a bit of a (or if I’m honest-these days, it’s more full on) bohemian. Circumstances in my early life stifled that for me but the free spirited me always remained beneath the surface. This goes for my mom who raised me, as well.  Her hippie soul was always present with us, in ideals, her choices, in her views of the world shared with me and present in small ways in the furnishings of our home, the art that bedecked the walls.  We were hippies, bohemians, gypsy souls living under the restraints of a practical straight laced life.  Now, I am happy to say we are free, we are living our authenticity proudly.  And I am left wanting to reconnect with some of those things I felt a connection to, even way back then.  And so I have comprised a bit of a wish list in my mind/heart and presently, a virtual vision board of those things.

This chair. Definitely on my Wish List.  Has been for a few years now.

But it was only a few weeks ago that I began actively looking into getting one. Truth is, there are very few left in any kind of decent condition and the reproductions cost upwards of hundreds of dollars.  Still, I wasn’t going to allow myself to get discouraged. I said to my daughter, “You know what? It’s okay. The weather is starting to warm up, summer is coming and there will be yard sales. I’m just going to hold a space that there will be one at a yard sale and it will be perfect, maybe even better than this one (the one I was looking at online for $400) and it will be just the right price, one I can afford.”

That was probably only about a week or two ago I said that to her.

Two days ago, I signed onto the local facebook “for sale” page looking for a table I had seen previously, wanted to share with my husband.  First new listing on the page I came to (and immediately caught my eye) was a listing for this fantastic bohemian “peacock chair”.  It was different from the one I was looking at online. It was even better! It was an original in terrific condition and it was totally affordable. I couldn’t believe it! What are the chances?

Oh! And get this. That page on Facebook. It’s actually called “Indoor Yard Sale”.  Yep! Yard sale. This chair came from a “yard sale” just as I had said.

I knew this was my opportunity.  I knew I had to go for it.  I shared the post with my daughter and she vehemently pronounced “Oh my gosh mom! You totally manifested that! You so totally did!” I did! And it was so quick, just a matter of a week or two.

But then, I realized there was someone else ahead of me with first dibs and there was also the predicament of how I was even going to get this thing home.  Still, I wasn’t discouraged. I got this! This chair is mine!

I shared the news with a friend, who piped right in with the information that the place where the chair was was very close to her home and that she would gladly go pick it up for me.  And the guy ahead of me? Well I did have to wait an entire day to find out if he would show for the chair.  He did.  The chair was his.

So I guess, maybe it wasn’t so magical? Maybe I could think that.  But in that moment, yet another thing happened.  The girl selling the chair let me know that she hadn’t posted about it yet, but she had a bigger, more magnificent one available for sale.  And she would be willing to sell it to me for the same price as the original chair.  I held out, held onto the prospect, didn’t give in to discouragement, continued to believe that what I really wanted would come my way.  It did and it was even more than I expected!



To us, this chair will be more than ample fun seating for two.  It is a reminder of all that can be accomplished when you set your mind and heart to something!

Next up for me is this little Indian table (straight out of my childhood):

(stay tuned . . .)


Keep on wishing, dreaming. believing,  and manifesting! You’ve got this, my friends!

~Amber and the entire magical Tabangay Crew

*There is speculation that this portion of the quote is actually attributed to a channeler named Darryl Anka who has assigned the words to an entity named Bashar and not in fact Einstein’s original words.

**From the article published here:


Ushering in the New Year with LOVE, LOVE, LOVE

Goodbye 2015 and thanks for the memories . . .


A new year always brings with it a chance  at do-over’s, fresh starts and new beginnings.  For us, this year was in more ways than it ever has been, a chance to look back and see how vastly different a turn our lives have taken, how different things really are than what we originally envisioned and all of it in the most wonderful and blessed of ways.  We have come so far in so many ways, experienced so much in just a few short months. The end of 2015 held some tough lessons for us, such clarity and then such tremendous fulfillment.  As we begin 2016, we are so contented, filled with such optimism and surrounded by such genuine love.  It’s what seems to permeate our household these days. And I am so grateful.

This chilly winter morning, after a very busy and wonderful weekend, these are the thoughts that fill my head.  Despite how busy and full our lives have been as of late, this morning I am taking the time to sit down, reminisce and reconnect.  Inevitably, I find that part of that process includes being here, sharing with you.

The past three months have been a whirlwind of celebrations for us.

And at the center: LOVE.




With our friends here:

We were able to attend two separate proper holiday parties with friends before we took off on our trip out west. This meant everything to the kids (and by extension to us) as for the first time in forever, they were reluctant to even leave on our trip for fear of what they might miss out on and most especially just how much they were going to miss everyone.


With Family in California:

Feeling “home: even when home is thousands of miles away.
Letting go, letting loose with those who accept your craziness.


Deep belly laughs and total security with those who love you unconditionally.


Dearest of friends, forever friends that feel like family.
Dearest of friends, forever friends that feel like family. More my sister than simply a friend.


Ringing in the New Year:

It was a humble celebration at the in-laws. We celebrated downstairs while the kids celebrated with their friends upstairs via Skype.


A celebration of what was, a celebration of life, a celebration of Tyler . . .

The day before we made our trip back home, we spent the day at County Line (Tyler’s beach). It felt good, felt right to be there at the dawn of a new year; the perfect place to reflect on the soul journey I have tread in the time since my brother left us. It occurred to me that January also would’ve have marked his 28th birthday, always a big part of the month for me.  The day was full of heartwarming memories and magical happenings.

(to read more about that day, click here.)

Back, at home, it was friends, friends and more friends time.  Culminating in a very special night . . .



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Winter Formal Dance January 30th 2016


I guess it could be seen as simply a coincidence (seeing as to so many it is month devoted to love) but February, so far has really been a month of defining and strengthening of relationships for all of us, a true “seeing” of those in our lives and their importance to us. It’s been about not holding back from telling them how we feel, showing them how much they mean to us.  And it’s been about acknowledging our own gifts and offerings, that special something only we bring to this world.  It’s been about LOVE but not just romantic love, celebrating it in all its forms.

Simple coffee dates with the one you love. ;)
Spending your days off in simple coffee dates with the one you’ve chosen. 😉


Celebrating milestones with those who matter most to us. And not forsaking the opportunity to let them know how much they mean to us.

And next up for us:

Livy and I will be leaving for California the end of this week in order to attend a celebration of love between these two:

Sweet! *
Sweet! *

Congrats to my beautiful cousin and her wonderful guy.

Wow! I wonder what March will hold for us!!!

As we turn the corner on this month and think ahead to all the things we have planned, I am assured that this year will be an abundant one and look forward to all the further outpourings of love, the deepening of new relationships and the celebrating of those of old.

As always . . .

Love and Light to all!


*this gorgeous photo was captured by the same talented photographer (Erika Killen of EK One Stop Studio) who we were blessed to have shoot us.  haha



This poor post has sat in the drafts folder for over a month now and I just couldn’t seem to get it together to get it composed.  It was originally titled: “New Friends, Milestones and New Beginnings.”  But we are so past all that.  We have been up to so much, are always busy.  There have been so many events we’ve been to, milestones reached , birthdays and anniversaries celebrated.  There is just so much I’d have to relate to catch you all up.  A lot of typing!  Haha  But then it occurred to me.  Maybe there really isn’t anything to say other than what can be summed up with this simple phrase.  This is plain and simple what I want to share:


None of us can hardly believe that we have been here in our new surroundings for less than a year. We all feel it is as if we belonged here all along! Recent events and especially the people who have come into our life have really made some very important things clear to us.

THIS taken from my Instagram feed.
THIS taken from my Instagram feed sums it up perfectly.


Life can be challenging at times and the past two years, we’ve been through some pretty major stuff.  We’ve lost loved ones (not by our choice) and (by choice) have had to say goodbye to others.  And through both experiences, we learned a lot about ourselves.  Together (and more importantly, as individuals) we grew stronger, braver and more aware. Things are so clear to us now; the clearest being in just how much of a fog we were living.  But that fog has lifted, the air around us so light and free.   We bravely shut old doors, never even realizing how quickly all the new ones would magically open before us.  And on the other side, we have experienced such greatness and with such ease.  I know there are bound to be more lessons to be learned and life can’t be this easy all the time but we are feeling so much love and support right now, that the threat of whatever comes our way feels pretty surmountable. It just means even more growth and blessings.

All these years, it seems have led us here (both geographically and philosophically). To this place of peace, contentment, and the realization that should you choose to be open and free, the universe rewards you with just that sort of environment.  And that there’s no need to wander, hopelessly searching for your tribe.  Your tribe will come to you. They will find you and you will recognize them almost instantly (I say almost because sometimes that old programmed fear can creep in) and only once you’ve let go and are willing to trust your heart.  It’s not something you question, it’s not something you have assess. It’s just a feeling you have. It’s a feeling we now, for the first time are genuinely feeling.  It’s the lesson I have learned this past year but something I am so much more grateful for my the kids to have learned.  It’s like we finally have found the perfect fit.

This is our place. This is our tribe. 


the Tabangays

To see just how much fun we’ve been up to with our new tribe, check out Trystan’s and Livy’s personal pages.

~And THIS:


my favorite snapshot to date. A perfect evening to end a perfect year~


Seconds of Summer (Part Two)

Wow! What a busy summer we’ve had.  Our life has been a whirlwind of “pure fantastic” since we made the move here down south just three months ago.  We love it here in North Carolina. Love our home, love our neighborhood, love the amenities, love the weather, love the energy here, just love it all! And beyond that, are the bonuses that we never even knew we were in store for but are so grateful for:

The beauty of this place, the purity of the air. Those clouds! I am in awe of their beauty.


The friendliness of the people here.  For the first time in many years, when I smile at perfect strangers (as I make it a regular practice to) I have my smile returned.  In the entire two years I’ve had my dreadlocks, I have received maybe one or two compliments on them. Here:  it’s becoming almost amusing how accepting and complimentary people are, nearly every place I go I have someone tell me how awesome they are. So, so nice.

And then there’s the bounty of homeschoolers here and the group that we so quickly and easily fell into.  After many years of going this route alone in our small town in upstate New York, here we have a whole gang of teens that regularly associate with each other; it’s almost getting to the point where there are just too many events to attend.  But to even have that to choose from is such a long awaited blessing.


Whether it's hangin' at the coffeehouse or on the monkey bars, if you're in the right company is all you need. Frenz like that are the best!
Whether it’s hangin’ at the coffeehouse or on the monkey bars,
if you’re in the right company it’s all you need. Frenz like that are the best!


Making the most of the last days of summer
Making the most of the last days of summer

And then of course, there was this long anticipated event…

The 5 Seconds of Summer concert was not a matter of simply showing up at the venue the night of the event.  Ooooohhhh no! It was far more than that. It was a week long adventure to get ready and properly celebrate.

First was shopping for supplies . . .
First was shopping for supplies . . .
then sneaking into the venue two days before to scope it out. All the gates and doors that would normally be closed were wide open for us, heehee
then sneaking into the venue two days before to scope it out. All the gates and doors that would normally be closed were wide open for us, heehee


Spending an entire six hours walking the streets of "uptown" Charlotte in the hopes of a sighting of the guys. We managed 3/4 and Ashton was sweet enough to take pics with the girls. Truly, a priceless and unforgettable moment.Tiff stayed with us another week and shortly after she returned home, was this . . . last but not least, saved the best for last-
Spending an entire six hours walking the streets of “uptown”
Charlotte in the hopes of a sighting of the guys.
We managed 3/4 and Ashton was sweet enough to stop and take pics with Livy.
We managed 3/4 and Ashton was sweet enough to stop and take pics with Livy.
Truly, a priceless and unforgettable moment.

For the whole magical story of how it all came to be, click here.

ROWYSO Tour~Charlotte NC
ROWYSO Tour~Charlotte NC

Last but not least, saved the best for last-

Trystan realized a dream of his own come true, months in the making; a belated birthday celebration and a rite of passage, all in one and . . .


at 14,000 feet and terminal velocity
at 14,000 feet and terminal velocity

jumped out of an airplane. I am so incredibly proud of my son’s courageous spirit. To lead your life with no fear, no regrets and to have that ideal at at such a young age, he is destined for great things. We are only too happy to nurture and support that!

For the full video, click here.

I have to wonder: what could top that? What grand new adventure awaits us next?! Guess, we’ll find out.

My new favorite hashtags: #weloveithere #thinkwellstay

May your road be paved with love, illuminated with glorious light and full of all sorts of unexpected adventure!